Thursday, May 27, 2010
Julie and Julia: My reflections as a blogger
Julie gets lost in her cooking and her blog deadlines that she ignores her husband. Actually I don't think he was completely ignored because she made the food and they would share it at dinner and he could always spend time in the kitchen with her too. But the fact that she had her focus on something else and became obsessed about it became a sliver of discontentment in their relationship. You can see the insecurity, jealously and frustration woven throughout the movie. Ever had an argument with your better half on the amount of time you spend blogging? Even now, I need to jump in the shower after my run; yet I sit her blogging. Its not really procrastination and I know if I don't get the post done tonight that I won't fail the class assignment yet I want to complete and hit POST. Another stressor in Julie and her husbands relationship is their life isn't as private as it once was and he doesn't have much control. Maybe he doesn't want the world to know what they had for dinner, or that Julie had a meltdown. At one point during an argument he yells at her not to put the fight in the blog. Where is the line between personal and public personal?
One thing I don't see Julie struggling with is how to fit in commenting on her bloggie friends sites. Does she not feel the "obligation" to support her supporters? To read what her fellow bloggers blog about? I know for me that I want to spend more time supporting my bloggie friends and that's done through comments. It is so nice to know that someone feels the same, or they can offer support, advise and friendship. I feel like through blogging I've made many virtual friends. Yes, maybe the friendships are surface level and we won't get to cry together over tea (HA. Like I do that with my in-person friends now), but we do share a common bond of running, caring, support and give advice and even the stop your whining comments, which are all meant to be supportive.
One line in the movie that made me pause for thought is Julie's called a narcissistic. Julie ponders if she really is obsessed with only herself and whether she's a good person or not. Aren't most blogs events around the author and their thoughts and feelings? Does that make us all narcissistic's? I hardly think so. There are many times where I like to post things outside my own running but are running related. And although I don't write my deepest, darkest thoughts in the blog, I use this as a personal journal. I have so many ideas for topics but don't have the time to write about them. I'd rather be running, reading books, reading blogs or sitting on the couch watching a movie with my boyfriend. Many of the topics I'd like to write on take more thought or even research and so I default to writing nothing, my latest run or posting/answering one of my running challenge questions.
I suppose one thing about the movie is that it makes me aware of my lack of accomplishments or lack of direction in my own life. Julie starts her blog with a goal and gets a movie out of it. My own blog doesn't have a specific purpose but I do want to be able to help other runners through my own experiences. Will I get a book deal, no...I'll just become one of the many numbers of bloggers out there judging my "acceptance" based on the number of followers and the number of comments. I know a lot of what my comment of "lack of direction"' comes from my own not knowing what I want out of life and not knowing what my life's purpose is. Perhaps that will be a rambling topic for another day.